Love
You know, if there is a heaven and hell, and I am not saying there is, but if there is I don't think love was born in heaven. No love is one of those things that comes straight from the depths of hell. I’m not really talking about the love you have for your parents or relatives, I am talking about the other kind of love, the kind you feel for a significant other. Perhaps you think I am being a bit to critical, but the fact is love has lead to very bad outcomes on countless occasions. The battle of Troy for example, it was fought for love, and look how many people died. Look at all the people that kill themselves every year in the name of love. Some people may say they are just crazy or unstable, or maybe they really are in love and feel like the one person that was right for them isn't going to be in their lives anymore for one reason or another. Their feelings are no longer mutual and sometimes that is hard to swallow. Or people that go out and murder the guy their wife is cheating on them with, yes it’s wrong, but just imagine how deeply hurt they were. I have been hurt that deeply and I wouldn't want to go through it again.
All of our emotions do things to our bodies while we are experiencing them. Love though; the effects of love are one of the more noticeable. Love can also lead to other very strong emotions and feelings like anger, pain, and even jealousy. Now I can't argue that love is a very welcome thing for most people, I quite enjoy the positive effects myself. There aren't many things that make you feel better than being in love, I suppose part of the conundrum is that something so good can lead to such negative things. We all go through our rough times with people we are in relationships with, even relatives; usually love is strong enough to pull us through these things. It seems as though love is the key, if it dies so will the relationship. It also seems that people are able to love but not like, there are plenty of people I love to death but don't really like much. Oddly enough many of them are here in this country. Love is blind, and that is part of what makes it such a wonderful emotion, or feeling to have. However, it can drive us to do crazy and unreasonable things. How can something so powerful be good?
The answer may very well be that it helps us learn to control all of our emotions, as we have discussed love is a very, very, powerful emotion with two obvious sides to it’s coin. Learning to control an emotion like that and act rational all the time while dealing with it, you will learn how to deal with the majority of your other emotions. I had to do this after a couple of years of being separated from Carrie, for a time I was actually considering doing something drastic about the situation. Soon I realized that this wasn’t worth all the pain and effort, I guess love isn't really an emotion so much as it is a feeling that leads to other emotions. It seems as though most people regard it as an emotion though, and rightfully so. Even if love was made in hell it doesn't necessarily mean that it’s bad all the time, as discussed the feelings of love are very welcome. If things are going well in a relationship then there isn't really anything better than the feelings and emotions that this can bring. However the longer the good feelings are there the more the bad ones will hurt. A relationship that is physical and lasts three weeks isn’t going to hurt so bad when it’s over, not compared to one that lasted 6 years and ended on a bad note.
Love is also blind; people get together these days that have no business being together at all. An outsider’s view reveals that these two have no reason in the world to be with one another, but they are in love. People get hitched shortly after meeting and such, if love wasn’t walking around in your head with an erection and a pair of dark glasses we’d be far better off. I suppose in women’s heads though he has a cane, just not a very reliable one. Love also isn't very intelligent, love has the IQ of a drooling infant, and the only thing it knows how to do sometimes is lust and want. It can make us selfish in so many ways; it can even make us complete assholes sometimes when we have no intention to do so. It drives a wedge into friendships sometimes.
However, it’s all worth it just to have that numb feeling in the back of your skull that love can bring, the sheer euphoria and pleasantness that can come from simple things like a kiss, or intercourse, or even just being close is amazingly worth while to some of us. It’s almost something that is worth going to war for, something worth fighting for at times. I would question if it is worth dying for, but I digress. Some of you may question weather or not you have ever been in love, or even if your in love now. It is true that feelings can fade over time, but if love is there the fire should burn bright for a while. Everyone has times in their life of doubt, and some even have momentary regrets about the choices they have made in a significant other, these types of things aren't to be worried about in the end, if the situation can be righted it will right itself. You can't make someone love you no matter how hard you try, Carrie for example may not have loved me at all, at least by my definition of love. The decision was simple and in the end she chose what would make her happy, ignoring her love for me, if there was any left. In the end it is about your happiness, you have to love yourself before you can love someone else, if you are an unhappy person then there is no way you can really make someone else happy no matter how hard you try, just like you can't really make someone love you, you can only try and sometimes succeed. Failure is a sure thing in life; success on the other hand is very quirky and hard to come by. Relationships carry the same rules, many of them are shit, but only one will be the one.
They say that true love never really fades; I don't know that I agree. I think all feelings change over time. I think love is still love, but the way you love changes a bit after you have been with someone for a while. If things never change, and are always easy, there may be some infidelity going on. Then again I suppose sex isn't really love, but sex is a huge part of a relationship so people associate it with love. When peoples sex lives start winding down they begin to feel differently about each other, due to the confusion between sex and love, many people find that after they have had all the sex they can have, there really isn't much there in the way of feelings. The relationship was purely physical, sometimes one person is actually in love (I.E. ME) and they are the ones that will be hurt. Not to mention that if your partner is complaining about some of your physical characteristics, they prolly don't love you.
The long and short of it is that love is a temptress that dances in heaven and hell, she is best not trusted, but she is also very welcome.
All of our emotions do things to our bodies while we are experiencing them. Love though; the effects of love are one of the more noticeable. Love can also lead to other very strong emotions and feelings like anger, pain, and even jealousy. Now I can't argue that love is a very welcome thing for most people, I quite enjoy the positive effects myself. There aren't many things that make you feel better than being in love, I suppose part of the conundrum is that something so good can lead to such negative things. We all go through our rough times with people we are in relationships with, even relatives; usually love is strong enough to pull us through these things. It seems as though love is the key, if it dies so will the relationship. It also seems that people are able to love but not like, there are plenty of people I love to death but don't really like much. Oddly enough many of them are here in this country. Love is blind, and that is part of what makes it such a wonderful emotion, or feeling to have. However, it can drive us to do crazy and unreasonable things. How can something so powerful be good?
The answer may very well be that it helps us learn to control all of our emotions, as we have discussed love is a very, very, powerful emotion with two obvious sides to it’s coin. Learning to control an emotion like that and act rational all the time while dealing with it, you will learn how to deal with the majority of your other emotions. I had to do this after a couple of years of being separated from Carrie, for a time I was actually considering doing something drastic about the situation. Soon I realized that this wasn’t worth all the pain and effort, I guess love isn't really an emotion so much as it is a feeling that leads to other emotions. It seems as though most people regard it as an emotion though, and rightfully so. Even if love was made in hell it doesn't necessarily mean that it’s bad all the time, as discussed the feelings of love are very welcome. If things are going well in a relationship then there isn't really anything better than the feelings and emotions that this can bring. However the longer the good feelings are there the more the bad ones will hurt. A relationship that is physical and lasts three weeks isn’t going to hurt so bad when it’s over, not compared to one that lasted 6 years and ended on a bad note.
Love is also blind; people get together these days that have no business being together at all. An outsider’s view reveals that these two have no reason in the world to be with one another, but they are in love. People get hitched shortly after meeting and such, if love wasn’t walking around in your head with an erection and a pair of dark glasses we’d be far better off. I suppose in women’s heads though he has a cane, just not a very reliable one. Love also isn't very intelligent, love has the IQ of a drooling infant, and the only thing it knows how to do sometimes is lust and want. It can make us selfish in so many ways; it can even make us complete assholes sometimes when we have no intention to do so. It drives a wedge into friendships sometimes.
However, it’s all worth it just to have that numb feeling in the back of your skull that love can bring, the sheer euphoria and pleasantness that can come from simple things like a kiss, or intercourse, or even just being close is amazingly worth while to some of us. It’s almost something that is worth going to war for, something worth fighting for at times. I would question if it is worth dying for, but I digress. Some of you may question weather or not you have ever been in love, or even if your in love now. It is true that feelings can fade over time, but if love is there the fire should burn bright for a while. Everyone has times in their life of doubt, and some even have momentary regrets about the choices they have made in a significant other, these types of things aren't to be worried about in the end, if the situation can be righted it will right itself. You can't make someone love you no matter how hard you try, Carrie for example may not have loved me at all, at least by my definition of love. The decision was simple and in the end she chose what would make her happy, ignoring her love for me, if there was any left. In the end it is about your happiness, you have to love yourself before you can love someone else, if you are an unhappy person then there is no way you can really make someone else happy no matter how hard you try, just like you can't really make someone love you, you can only try and sometimes succeed. Failure is a sure thing in life; success on the other hand is very quirky and hard to come by. Relationships carry the same rules, many of them are shit, but only one will be the one.
They say that true love never really fades; I don't know that I agree. I think all feelings change over time. I think love is still love, but the way you love changes a bit after you have been with someone for a while. If things never change, and are always easy, there may be some infidelity going on. Then again I suppose sex isn't really love, but sex is a huge part of a relationship so people associate it with love. When peoples sex lives start winding down they begin to feel differently about each other, due to the confusion between sex and love, many people find that after they have had all the sex they can have, there really isn't much there in the way of feelings. The relationship was purely physical, sometimes one person is actually in love (I.E. ME) and they are the ones that will be hurt. Not to mention that if your partner is complaining about some of your physical characteristics, they prolly don't love you.
The long and short of it is that love is a temptress that dances in heaven and hell, she is best not trusted, but she is also very welcome.
posted by goemonronin at 4:17 AM
1 Comments:
Love "Is".
The negatives you describe happen when we become possessive. We find no better battle ground than over Love. Now that's a paradox! Let's just call it a love for fighting.
Trust me...nothing's yours except what you beamed in with, and that applies to relationships too.
Love is none of those negative things you describe...those are spin-offs. Physical love is passion, you can be passionate and NOT Love. Jealous love is possessive, emotional.
It's best in a relationship to not Love a mate the way you love a car,or thing. This will lead to all the negative situations. Love the person for their gifts and inner qualities and then let them "be".
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